Hi!
I just joined. My motivation to join is to find and talk to like-minded people who are going through the same struggles that can understand me, do not see me as crazy and do not criticize me.
My fiancé and I are getting married on May 11.
His wife (still refers to her as such) of 33 years passed away about 10 years ago. He has made sure I know in detail: how their marriage was wonderful; that they never argued, only minor disagreements; that she was beautiful, sophisticated, extremely smart, classy, demanding (in a good way), etc., and how much he adored her.
He has shown (and tells me) how much he loves and adores me, and I am happy with him. Still… it is extremely hurtful to know that your husband’s heart will never be 100% yours; that the ONLY reason you are in his life is because the woman he really loves is no longer here; that you would have never been his first choice. I know… it is unhealthy to think that way, but it is hard to block those thoughts.
Anyway… I think it is enough ranting for today.
Looking forward to get to know some of you.
Blessings,
I Am Here
I just joined. My motivation to join is to find and talk to like-minded people who are going through the same struggles that can understand me, do not see me as crazy and do not criticize me.
My fiancé and I are getting married on May 11.
His wife (still refers to her as such) of 33 years passed away about 10 years ago. He has made sure I know in detail: how their marriage was wonderful; that they never argued, only minor disagreements; that she was beautiful, sophisticated, extremely smart, classy, demanding (in a good way), etc., and how much he adored her.
He has shown (and tells me) how much he loves and adores me, and I am happy with him. Still… it is extremely hurtful to know that your husband’s heart will never be 100% yours; that the ONLY reason you are in his life is because the woman he really loves is no longer here; that you would have never been his first choice. I know… it is unhealthy to think that way, but it is hard to block those thoughts.
Anyway… I think it is enough ranting for today.
Looking forward to get to know some of you.
Blessings,
I Am Here